How to Tell Your Kids the Truth About Santa

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  1. Kim says:

    Thank you for this blog. Quite honestly, I am tired of creating the Santa/Elf experience and I feel my 9 year olds are old enough to know the truth. This truly gives me a considerate way to start the conversation with them.

  2. Katie says:

    I have an 11 and 9 year old. My older child always believed in santa, I am pretty sure my younger child never believed. I have kept up the believing in santa because I want it to be magical for them and I love “believing” even though I am an adult. My mom always told me that Santa is the spirit of christmas. My children have just recently been asking “is santa real” and last night I got a “mom, is santa real? Does he put the presents under the tree or is it all you?” I wasn’t prepared for this question and just said “of course he is real, he is the spirit of christmas.” and I smiled at her. I am not sure what she thought. And I am not sure what I think about how I handled that. I wish I could have done it differently now but I didn’t want to upset her or her younger sister that was right there. Should I bring it back up or just let it lye?

  3. Jenn says:

    I have twin 11.5 year olds who believe. That’s for these awesome tips to help me open the conversation and keep the idea special

  4. Clara Purcell says:

    My child is only 2 and she’s in a really culturally diverse friend group at her creche. She’s starting to get excited about Santa and i want to keep that magic alive for a little while but I’m not sure how to navigate the fact that Santa doesnt visit her Muslim pals without just saying Santa doesn’t visit all kids for some reason which is obviously confusing and weird for her. Side note we’re a totally secular family so Santa has no religious affiliation. We love talking about different customs and religions with her but I’m a but stuck on how to talk about this while still being culturally sensitive and not making Santa seem like an exclusive weirdo…

  5. kevin says:

    I feel bad for kids who think that Santa is real but the truth is that because it doesn’t exist but you can still believe and I think they should hide this website.

  6. Susanne Evans says:

    I told my 10-year-old that Santa wasn’t really because he had said it for many years and I felt I had to allow for the truth, thereby following the example of a friend I much admire who said her son had been relieved when she told him. My son is now bitterly disappointed and says Christmas is ruined. Clearly I handled this incredibly badly and feel very guilty. I will try to bring up the points your raise her. His face was so shocked when I told him, though I was convinced he didn’t believe in him.

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